Suze Orman Shares Secret to Happiness on Oprah Show
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Great. Oprah makes another blockbuster breakthrough discovery in self-development with Suzie Orman’s wize counsel on the subject of “Happiness”.
What? Has the bottom of the financial thing dropped out so badly that she has to join the choir in the self-help arena?
Don’t you get the bang-on message that Bob Newhart gave us in that MadTV skit you posted a while ago?
His message to his client was “Just Stop It”. It was very funny but, at the same time, at least as valuable as Susie’s sanguine effort on the nation’s most popular TV talk show. (I didn’t see the segment but I’ll bet you dollars to doughnuts she pitches a new book at the end.)
Susie makes some great observations. No doubt about that. I don’t know if I’d call them “powerful” as you did but that’s just me. The problem with all this is when it get’s near the end. This is where the big advice to instantly fix us all comes in to it. She drops the ball here big time by telling us what every mother tells her kids when they start grade one:
“Do your best… make the most of it… vow to succeed” (Yawn)
Look. The human adult capacity to think clearly long enough so as to enable life-changing decisions is (sadly) the domain of only those 2%-5% who are predisposed to succeed anyway. The rest of us just fumble through.
The fact is that most of us loose the ability to use free will very soon in life. I’d say about age three or four on average. The short reason for this has to do with how attitudes ‘take us over’ so to speak. We basically lose the original motivating source that we had as very young children and we soon become thought-clones of whomever is closest to us as we were being brought up. Probably why we vote as our parents do.
I’m not saying there isn’t a way out. There certainly is. In fact I spent a lot of time researching it. The core discovery I’ve made is this:
You don’t need more advice. You just need more immunity. Mindset immunity naturally weakens then overrides the attitudes rather than giving them strength. The net effect is that you can then have free thought and a more natural motivation restored.
If you think the population can effectively think it’s way out of all the myriad of pressures and troubles raging all around their separate lives, just because they heard Suzie spout some golden advice on Oprah, then I’ve got news for you: Like Suzie, you might be in dreamland yourself.
Happiness for me is a feeling of being contented with what you have at the moment and counting your blessings no matter how small it is. It is within. Lately, I have been sad and it was my choice, but when I read about the law of attraction and decided to be happy, all my dreams became a reality. I didn’t know about the principles yet and how to apply it, but after I changed to being happy, everything juast came unexpectedly.
Thanks David, I respect your opinions, and I thank you for sharing them.
David wrote:
Yawn all you want, but if you ignore your mother’s advice, in other words, if you don’t do your best, if you don’t make the most of it, if you don’t vow to succeed… how can you complain about your lousy life? It was your free will to choose to ignore that advice, just as it will be your free will to someday follow that advice and begin getting different results.
Wow, that’s harsh. I don’t believe for a minute that success is the domain of only 2-5% of the population. I don’t believe that 98% of the population is predisposed to failure!
You are right that you don’t need more advice. What you need is to simply follow the advice you have already received.
Immunity from what? From your own bad decisions?
Strange words coming from someone whose website is all about mindset, but no matter… it is pretty evident that ‘thinking’ IS the only way out of the situation that you have ‘thought’ yourself into.
Peace,
Bob
(proud citizen of Dreamland)
@ Ley:
That’s a wonderful example of exactly how life works. When you decide to be happy and get into the flow of life, life begins to get better! Keep us posted!
Peace,
Bob
@ Bob Crawford:
Yes, I can be harsh because I’m so ticked off. But I’m not mean. It’s mean to mislead people and that is exactly what’s going on today in the self-help arena.
I won’t prattle on here but I do want to clear something up about the immunity thing.
Soon I will be launching a new product that will change the way personal development is done. Nothing really and truly new has come down the pipe in this category since the Maharishi came to town over 50 years ago. (Not that he was any great shakes.)
Self-help and all it’s cadre of “teachers” (do I have to mention James A Ray again?) haven’t done much except lighten the load on the bank accounts of a lot of good – though unsuspecting – people. People have a need for more and they need better and they need it soon. It’s been a travesty so far.
The immunity of which I speak is “Mindset Immunity”. I coined the term to describe a type of natural intrinsic immune system that operates on the thinking as the physical system operates on the body – that is – to return it to a state of homeostasis, or normalcy. But there’s a problem: Mindset Immunity operates way too slowly. In many cases it’s almost imperceptible. That is why so many are still seeking various therapies long after the fact.
When I say we need more immunity I mean we need to locate the natural energy (I call it the “juice”) that is latent within the human person that supports this immunity and speeds it up times ten, twenty, thirty and more. Like you had as a very young child.
I have no “advice” for any of you accept to say that it’s time you all stopped chasing success and became Immune To Failure instead. That is where true happiness can be found. It’s a simple process and I happen to own the technology that gives anyone access to it. And it’s free.
Self-help can’t (and never will) do it with more talk. That’s a just a dog and pony show the price of admission of which is starting to cost lives.
@ David:
My friend, I would tread carefully. You may not realize it but you are trying to become the very thing you are bashing… a self help guru!
People have a way of seeing through name calling and put-downs and in the end they will gravitate toward a positive influence rather than a negative.
How can you bash the self-help field and then say, by the way, I’ve got a self-help product that will fix your problems.”?
Even in tragic situations like the James Ray fiasco I try to find elements that relate to my readers need for growth and education.
There are enough pundits out there twisting truths and spreading half-truths, what is needed are more individuals willing to first look within themselves, and who are then willing to share their discoveries with others.
Best of luck with your product.
Peace,
Bob
Bob. I’m liking you more every day. Thanks for the “warning”.
I personally guarantee you that I will NEVER become a self-help guru. To do that I would need to develop and maintain the hubris and ego guys like Mr. Ray let percolate into his life. If I look like I’m bashing this industry all to hell it’s to make people wake up just enough to realize that there’s an new alternative and it’s like nothing else out there.
I can’t “fix your problems” but we all know what happens if you fall down and scrape your knee, or get a cold, or the mumps. If you have a reasonably healthy immune system you get well again pretty much on your own. Congratulate yourself.
Mindset immunity can work this way too but in the thinking. Each person does it separately on their own by using my invention just once. All I do is make sure they use it correctly. It’s just a color-within-the-lines sort of easy.
If I happen to re-invent this industry (the name of which was around before I got out of short pants) so dramatically then great. The overall benefit will be that a whole lot of great people will be free.
Free of you and free of me too.
They can even call me a idiot to my face and we’ll both end up laughing about it and trundling off to have lunch together. Like kids do. The motivation to war with everyone else will be so weak that we might yet live to see the day when it will be no more.
Wanna come over for coffee?
Cheers!
David
@ David:
Sounds great! And I’ll take you up on that cup of coffee!
Peace,
Bob